Sharing to popular Reddit forum “Today I F*ed Up,” the anonymous dad shared his own personal “fk up” which resulted in an intense marriage row.
According to the husband, his wife’s cooking is usually “amazing” and “heaps better” than his, but thanks to pregnancy, her taste in food has changed. “Ever since she got pregnant, she’s been spoiling everything with too much salt. The food is almost inedible,” he wrote.
“She went to lie down since she was feeling nappy. I threw away the food since I knew she could not tell and ordered takeout food. I will head outside and eat there. She doesn’t have to know. It will be a little secret between me and the delivery guy. No big deal,” continued the husband.
“Little did I know she was listening in on me. Of course it upset her and she began crying. She accused me of hating her food. Never. I came upfront. She told me she never noticed and I should have pointed out what she’s been doing earlier. But then began crying even more and said that it was true, I indeed hate her food.”
The wife responded by instilling an apartment “sex ban” and vouching that she won’t let him see her naked until next year, along with making all his own food.
Pregnancy and parenthood is something that often affects relationships, with one study finding that 70 percent of couples experienced “precipitous” drops in the quality of their relationship following the birth of a child.
But for most responding to the husband’s situation, the clear issue was a lack of communication - something that research shows is vital for a healthy, long-lasting relationship. One study by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers found that 67.5 percent of marriages ended primarily due to communication problems.
“TALK,” warned one Reddit user. “Secretive behavior erodes trust.”
“I do not understand why you didn’t just…use your words,” reasoned another user.
One ruled that “your f**k up wasn’t ordering the takeout, it was a lack of communication with your wife. I can understand why you would be worried to let her know, but you could have easily told this to her exactly how you told it to us. Outcomes would be significantly better.”
Another suggested that he could have simply told her, “Wow this is salty, could you tone it down next time,” but his choice to “proceed to be the worst secret agent ever” was wrong. “C’mon man, there will be times when your partner does something you don’t like and there won’t be a pregnancy to scape it,” they added. “No more head in the sand.”
In an update, the husband appeared to take the advice and explained that he “talked it out” with his wife and “agreed to be honest with each other next time.”
“I cooked us dinner tonight and gave her a foot rub,” he wrote. “She also called her cousin over today. Her cousin told her the same thing I did after she poured her in a bowl of soup. Wifey promised to get her blood tests done asap. And also before we went to bed she asked me if I could get her bagels from the store.”
Newsweek has contacted the father-to-be for comment.
